if you had to chose between science and love what would you chose????

Question: if you had to chose between science and love what would you chose????
- Keywords:
  emotion,
  love,
  personal,
  science
Asked by jellybeanfun to Claire, Kate, Matt, Rob, Sam on 24 Jun 2013.
- Sam Geen answered on 24 Jun 2013:
  
  It’s a difficult problem – doing a research job sometimes means you have to move between short contracts, making staying with people hard unless one person can move around the world easily. Long-distance relationships are hard to keep going, too, because you rarely see the other person and it takes a lot of time and money to visit them. So far I’ve chosen science, but it’s not an easy problem to find an answer to.
- Claire Lee answered on 24 Jun 2013:
  
  Gosh, a tough one!
  
  What do you mean by “love” – love for a person, or for something you love doing? If it’s something you love to do then I would say go for that, because you should always do what you love.
  
  If it’s a person then it’s more difficult. Again, love is a great thing, but the scary thing here is that you don’t know how it will turn out. It is possible to be in science and have a family (I do!) but it is hard and requires other sacrifices. It all depends on what is “enough” for you. You need to figure out what your base level of happiness is, that is, if you take everything else away, what do you need to be truly happy. Those are the things you should never ever compromise on, no matter what you do or who you’re with. Your partner will have their own set, and your two sets are probably different. (some people want to be with their partners every day. Some people don’t mind being away as long as the times they are together are well spent)
  
  The trick to a lasting relationship is having two people whose personalities and lifestyles cover each others “enough’s”.
  
  Although – If you truly love science, then nobody should require you to give it up to be with them.
- Kate Husband answered on 24 Jun 2013:
  
  I think there is a balance in life between things such as work, relationships, family etc. I think if my work and science became too dominant and I lost that balance then I would have to change something but hopefully it won’t ever come to that!
- Matthew Pankhurst answered on 25 Jun 2013:
  
  Love. But I’d do sneaky science on the side….! Seriously though, you are who you are, and I think true love is finding someone who gets you, and loves you for who you are. So, if you are a scientist, and they love you for who you are, then there’s no need to choose! Having a family means you want to spend time with them, being a scientist means you want to spend time doing science. But then, nearly everyone has to spend time away from their family, and you can be a family person and a scientist at the same time :).
- Robert Woolfson answered on 25 Jun 2013:
  
  In the end, that’s a choice between my career and my happiness. That’s not really a choice, I’d choose to be happy rather than successful.

Question: if you had to chose between science and love what would you chose????

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